Cathy Johnston MA, LMFT, CST
   Relationship and Sex Therapist in Minneapolis

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I often get phone calls that start something like this: a person with a well-mannered voice says, "I need someone to talk to. I'm having relationship problems." When I ask for more detail, they name some general problems. "We have a hard time communicating." Or, "we don't spend a lot of time together." They may avoid adding any more, simply asking to talk more about it when we meet. If they're feeling especially brave or desperate, they may confide "I can't believe I'm in this situation but I want to save my marriage. I did something I never thought I'd do. I had an affair and my partner found out. They've told our friends and family and I'm so embarrassed. I don't know how we'll ever get over this."

I think to myself,...

A friend was talking with me about his latest relationship. He asked, What are you supposed to do when you're running out of gas or things start breaking down? As I listened to him, memories of a college road trip out west and then of my old tractor lawnmower ran through my head . How do you know whether to try to fix things or just move on? Not an easy question. 

Comparing relationships to vehicles may seem odd, but they share some common elements. Both need fuel to keep going. You need to take care of them by performing regular maintenance. Sometimes they malfunction a bit and you can read a manual or talk to a friend and get things running smoothly again. Other times there's a problem yo...

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Cathy Johnston MA, LMFT, CST

612.770.1799

2840 Humboldt Ave S

Minneapolis MN 55408

37265 Twin Bay Dr

Crosslake MN 56442

chcjohnston@gmail.com